Famous Nigerian Fashion designer and influencer Veekee James has stirred controversy online following candid comments about sex and marriage dynamics.
Speaking from her perspective as a newlywed, Veekee offered blunt advice to her sister-in-law and women at large, “Do not deny your husbands sex, even when exhausted.
“I have at least almost a year and a half of marriage experience. So don’t deny your husband sex; it’s not a lie.
“Sometimes, you might be so tired that you cannot move, and the last thing you want is anyone touching you.
“Heck, on some days you may be able to see that he looks like he’d go and die in the bathroom.
“My sister, just lie down and opens her legs; you don’t need to do anything, just make the crooked way straight,” she shared.
She acknowledged that there are days when a woman’s exhaustion is visible and valid, but stressed that communication matters.
But on days when you’re not really too tired, you’d just have to know how to say it and pet him so that he would see you’re also so tired.
Veekee’s comments quickly went viral, sparking debate about the emotional and physical labor expected of women in marriage.
While some praised her honesty and practical advice, others questioned why conversations around intimacy often place responsibility solely on women.